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brett11253 wrote:Yea just let her come to you. if not move on the better things man

Yup...let her bounce. When and if she makes up her mind AND you are still interested then you make the move. Otherwise you should be making moves elsewhere.

I was just up at USC this past week, and I know that you know this. There is no shortage of girls in SoCal....Just go back to doing work.

dude, you're being a pussy... bottom line

what more is there to know? the girl already picked another guy over you. so now if she breaks up with him you're going to be cool with being with her after she already made it clear she didnt like you as much as him?

c'mon man, sometimes things like this suck and hurt and you think its so right and in reality its just another girl and another phase, don't sweat it

and for the love of god, save the nice guy act. you don't have to be this hard ass toughguy or be someone you're not, but to be there to 'talk' to her and shit like that is absolutely 100% sucker... save being the nice guy til AFTER you score the girl.

This is one of the main reasons I love the NDL, you can ask a question and someone will be able to figure it out.

ajalves wrote:you can live with being 2nd choice?

Unless you were your girl's(wife's in a lot of our cases) first time or first boyfriend then we have all been 2nd choice or 99th in Nole's case....

Shiftdnb wrote:Oh noooo, you ended up in the friend zone!!!

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All seriousness though....you gotta move on, you can't sit there and be her fall-back plan. That doesn't require her to make any kind of decision other than, which one of these guys would I rather be with this week? You're doing the right thing--you've told her to make a decision and if she wants to be with him, be with him; if she wants to give up on him, then she can come to you. But if she DOES that and then she waffles, walk away--it's a sign that she won't make a decision, and you don't want to be with someone who can't commit to you. Not to mention she's basically said you're not as good as the other guy, despite him being a "dick". What's that say???

Like some of the others have said, if you focus too much on this one, you will get blinders on and you will not only fail to see others around you who might be perfect for you, you will start to overlook her flaws and problems due to your infatuation with her. And also, like MCX said, you don't want to make a decision too early in life....I almost did that; glad I didn't, because my ex-fiance turned out to be a nutjob, and I'm now with a girl who I couldn't have created to be any more perfect for me. Just keep looking....if she's right for you, things will fall into place. Don't let the perfect girl slip you by because you're waiting for a girl who made you her #2 choice.

texasfan4444 wrote:

brett11253 wrote:Yea just let her come to you. if not move on the better things man

Yup...let her bounce. When and if she makes up her mind AND you are still interested then you make the move. Otherwise you should be making moves elsewhere.

I was just up at USC this past week, and I know that you know this. There is no shortage of girls in SoCal....Just go back to doing work.

Good point as everyone all feels the same way and is pretty much in the same boat as me. I realized I was flirting with the pussie zone by being nice, I should have done this several days ago. Keep in mind she had been seeing this guy for a few months and me a week or so, so I figured I could sweet talk her out of her current lame ass situation.


Thanks to everyone for chiming in this is why I love and missed the NDL, you guys are normal dudes just like everyone else with solid ideas and solutions.


Luis your in my dog house, you were at SC and didn't even hit me up, we coulda hit up La Live for some drinks or dinner man, maybe even caught a few Marlins while we were out there...haha.

It could be much worse, you could live in a place with a 3:1 male to female ratio like I do...

Pat, here's what you did wrong:

Shel we have spoken a few times via the text message, you know I am not bright at times, this one is way over my head.

EDIT: HAHA put the pussy on a peadastol i get it now.

shel311 wrote:Pat, here's what you did wrong:

BWHAAAAAAAAAAAAA Classic

packsyD22 wrote:Shel we have spoken a few times via the text message, you know I am not bright at times, this one is way over my head.

LOL


You put the pussy on a pedestal!!!!!

shel311 wrote:

packsyD22 wrote:Shel we have spoken a few times via the text message, you know I am not bright at times, this one is way over my head.

LOL


You put the pussy on a pedestal!!!!!

Re-read my edit, I barely got it right before you posted son.

shel311 wrote:Pat, here's what you did wrong:

lmao!!

packsyD22 wrote:

texasfan4444 wrote:

brett11253 wrote:Yea just let her come to you. if not move on the better things man

Yup...let her bounce. When and if she makes up her mind AND you are still interested then you make the move. Otherwise you should be making moves elsewhere.

I was just up at USC this past week, and I know that you know this. There is no shortage of girls in SoCal....Just go back to doing work.

Good point as everyone all feels the same way and is pretty much in the same boat as me. I realized I was flirting with the pussie zone by being nice, I should have done this several days ago. Keep in mind she had been seeing this guy for a few months and me a week or so, so I figured I could sweet talk her out of her current lame ass situation.


Thanks to everyone for chiming in this is why I love and missed the NDL, you guys are normal dudes just like everyone else with solid ideas and solutions.


Luis your in my dog house, you were at SC and didn't even hit me up, we coulda hit up La Live for some drinks or dinner man, maybe even caught a few Marlins while we were out there...haha.

I was really trying to find time man. However I was all over he place. UC riverside, Uc irvine, USC, Compton school district, and California baptist.

If I had a little more time I would of hit you up. I'm sure I'll be back around before long.

texasfan4444 wrote:

UC riverside, Uc irvine, USC, Compton school district, and California baptist.

One of these things is not like the other...

At least get naked pics and post them here. Christ.

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Uuaww wrote:

texasfan4444 wrote:

UC riverside, Uc irvine, USC, Compton school district, and California baptist.

One of these things is not like the other...

Yeah that Baptist school was full on party central.

good luck packsy i've decided to take the dave route and be 100% asshole

VeniVediV1ci wrote:good luck packsy i've decided to take the dave route and be 100% asshole

I don't see how this guy can even be an asshole...